Cinderella Tear (A novel that exam the unspoken nature of abusive relationship in western culture)

Hi, do you know statistically over 48% of women in western culture been in physical or emotional abusive love stories.

Cinderella Tears is a novel that try to illustrate this frequent, but unspoken reality within our modern western society.

While completing a combine degree in media and social science, in university, I was surprise to find the statistic that an obsession with fairy tale romance, has result in 48% of women in western society, been in physical or emotional abusive relationship. And actively choose to stay in those abusive relationship due to the obsession of the fairy tale romance nature of those relationship. According to research, this is because girls are too frequently been taught true love and true happiness for a women is fairy tale romance, since they are a child, with statement such as "Snow white and the Prince live happily ever after" but never justified why. In the study of propaganda it is call "response shaping process." which is to persuade a person to a particular point of view, prior to they having and understand towards the situation. It is especially effective towards children, because they have no understanding towards anything. Psychologist Philip C McGraw, argue that when a person has no or only has a limited understanding towards a situation, they don't have the necessary data to contradict the perspective they are been persuaded to believe in, thus, make them vulnerable to be persuaded to a distorted point of view. With 48% of women been in abusive relationship as a result, I believe this is a situation that the entire western world need to know about.

I've also seen stuff like this happened to girls, in real life, it was like watching a car crash in slow motion. (and now you know why I say "If I ever have a daughter, the only bed time story I am telling her, is the Cuba missile crisis.")

So, base on the papers published by the leading academics within the field and real stories of girls that been in the situation. I wrote this novel, "Cinderella Tears", hoping to inform people about this frequent but unspoken of issue, within modern western society.

The book can be found on http://sbpra.com/Jui-WeiYang/

Plot

Hailey Walker is in anabusive relationship with her boyfriend, Sam Brown, but doesn’t want to leave him. Their affair is not only abusive, butextremely romantic at the same time. Sam is good at sweeping a girl off her feet.

Hailey grew up believing that true love and happiness with a romantic man is a fairy tale come true. It becomes an obsession. She believes her relationship with Sam is what true love is supposed to be, so she continues to lie to herself and stays with this abusive man.

Sam doesn’t love Hailey, and only wants to keep her as a trophy to prove that he can have a woman as beautiful as Hailey addicted to him. Despite being together with Hailey for over ten years, Sam is married to a rich woman named Nichole Stanmore.

Nichole doesn’t love Sam and is ready to divorce him the second he does her wrong. She knows that Sam needs her family fortune to keep his business, so Sam won’t do anything to anger his wife.

Nichole’s father, Jeff Stanmore, owns a successful trucking company, but owes all his success to his wife, Sabrina, who has a doctorate in business. She transformed Jeff from a high school dropout into the successful businessman he is today. Jeff’s affair with a nineteen-year-old Chinese exchange student angers Sabrina so much that she dies of a stroke. Soon after, Jeff starts to plan his next wedding.

Who will be crying Cinderella Tears in this intense novel?

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juiwei2000 said:

While completing a combine degree in media and social science, in university, I was surprise to find the statistic that an obsession with fairy tale romance, has result in 48% of women in western society, been in physical or emotional abusive relationship.

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Condescending and inaccurate, the reasons why some women stay in abusive relationships are many and complex. Blaming fairy stories for susceptibilty to abuse is similar to blaming video games for violence.

Moved. Jui-Wei, confine your adverts to the Member Publications | Shameless Self-Promotion forum.

I would like to present you with the following articles written by relevant academics

http://fap.sagepub.com/content/11/3/305.short
Sue Jackson, Psychologist, Victoria University of Wellington

http://spr.sagepub.com/content/18/2/239.short
Julia T. Wood, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill

http://www.myapologetics.com/resear...n-cause-of-abusive-relationship-amount-women/
During my second year in university, I wrote an informal article on my blog, on the topic, it was 10 years ago and I was 20 years old during the time. Naturally the standard of a 2nd year university student, is no where as close as the paper published by the academics in relevant field, which is why it was only published on a gossip blog. but even so, the response I got have its fair share of young women, sharing their experience, of going through this exact same thing.

I think it is very difficult for us guys, to imagine, women in our society would acting in such manner, because we think, "nobody in their right mind would be that stupid", so the idea that such thing could happen is just bizarre for us. However, all study have shown, that is exactly what is happening and it is a very real situation for a lot of girls, to go through, especially if they are from working class.

juiwei2000 said:

I think it is very difficult for us guys, to imagine, women in our society would acting in such manner, as it is just bizarre for us, because we think, action like this could only be conduct by very stupid people. But for a lot of women, especially those from working class, this is very real situation.

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In modern society our behaviour is influenced by many things including books I'll give you that. Certainly fairy stories like video games in the male context are a factor in creating the mindset but not the main cause of abuse, that just flies in the face of common sense.

In the real world some people end up with abusive partners because some partners happen to be potentially abusive usually only showing this tendency later on in the relationship when commitments make it difficult for the abused partner to bail out.

"Although repeated exposure to narratives of romance in popular culture from an early age may lead young women to expect idealized romance in their heterosexual love relationships, a good number encounter abusive experiences. This article draws on young women's stories of abuse in heterosexual love relationships gathered from interviews with 23 young women aged 16-18 years. These stories are examined using a feminist, poststructuralist form of narrative analysis to explore the extent to which young women draw on cultural narratives of romance or alternative narratives and to explore how self and boyfriends are positioned within these narratives. Although at one level romance seemed to be a trap that prevented young women from abandoning an abusive boyfriend, at another it was a resource that they used in an active way to make sense of what had happened. Ways in which this work might usefully inform prevention, education and counselling are discussed." (Jackson, 2001)



Dr Sue Jackson is from Victoria University of Wellington at New Zealand, this paper address the issue of how an obsession of fairy tale romance is helping to create a culture, where women in the western world is willing to stay in an abusive relationship, if it means fairy tale romance.



Please Click here to read the article:

http://fap.sagepub.com/content/11/3/305.short